How do I choose the perfect partner?

How do I Choose the Perfect Partner?

As Sheikh Bilal Dannoun puts it, “Marriage is about two imperfect people that never give up on each other.”

The Prophet said, “A woman is married for four things, i.e., her wealth, her family status, her beauty and her religion. So you should marry the religious woman (otherwise) you will be a losers.”

Sahih Al-Hurairah 

These are the things that a man should look for when looking to get married, and it encourages people to do their homework, in order to have a healthy and happy marriage. Look for a triple M, Muslim Marriage Material, referring to the above hadith.

Unfortunately 50% of marriages end in divorce according to a recent study done by American Psychological Association (APA). It is important to find someone who is your no.1 fan and makes you feel good about yourself.  

When looking for a partner you need to have reasonable standards, you should know what you want, make a list and look for something that is important to you, you want someone that interests you.

Engagements occurs once the man is ready to marry he asks for the women’s hand and there has been an acceptance on both the women and families part. During this period no other suitors can come and ask for her hand. There is no religious obligations in an engagement, it is a formal, but an informal agreement. This engagement period allows you to get to know that person, it can, it can last for however long it takes to: get to know that person, financially ready, etc., there is no time limit, but it shouldn’t been prolonged.

How do I Choose the Perfect Partner?
How do I Choose the Perfect Partner?

For women there is a stigma when she calls off an engagement, or Katb al-Kitab (KK). If she is unhappy in her situation and there is “no spark”, she should look for the best outcome, and it would be in her best interest to go to her father.

Compatibility is something the scholars of Islam have spoken about, which you will find when you find out what you both want in your marriage.

After the engagement period, a KK is conducted which is formerly known as the Nikkah, and it is the contract itself that both people sign. This Islamically means that you are married, however there can be conditions. During the KK there needs to be representation for the women usually her father, if he isn’t around her uncle, or a mahram, this person is known as a Wali. There has two be two male witnesses, a dowry written in the contract.

Once the KK has been signed the couple can know be alone and there is no need for mahram, some couples after the KK move out, other take a while to move out. There is usually a ceremony after the KK is known as the walimah, which is sunnah, some scholars state that it is an obligation.

It was narrated that Anas said, “The Messenger of Allah saw traces of yellow perfume on ‘Abdur-Rahman and said, ‘What is this?’ He said, ‘I married a woman for a Nawah (five Dirhams) of  gold.’ He said, ‘May Allah bless you. Give a Walimah (wedding feast) even if it is with one sheep.’”

Sunan Al-Nisa`i

According to Islamic Shariah there are requirements to get married,

“And let those who find not the financial means for marriage keep themselves chaste, until Allah enriches them of His Bounty.”

Quran 24:33

Talk to your local Sheikh or Imam to find out the specific requirements to that you are pleasing Allah when looking to get married.

Brothers In Need

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Brothers in Need

The messenger of Allah said:

“None of you will truly believe until you love for your brother what you love for yourself

Sunan Ibn Majah

It was this hadith in mind, that inspired brothers from Sydney’s West, to start the organisation, ‘Brothers in Need’.

The idea was initiated with the intention of bettering the Muslim Ummah, supporting our brothers and sisters and providing a realistic image where Muslims care and nurture each other.

They began by visiting the children’s hospital, and providing gifts for the sick children there. Soon, their actions caught attention on social media and more people began to inquire about their services. Many wanted to volunteer, and others were asking for help.

Brothers in Need
Brothers in Need at the My Home Respite Centre in Birrong

This organisation did not only provide assistance for emergency situations (i.e. those that are homeless, experienced abuse) but it also allowed people to get back onto their feet and live independently (i.e. providing groceries, full time jobs, accommodation).

An idea that began over dinner, has quickly become a life source for many.

Today, the team continues to grow, and a true example has been made of what can happen when a community unites to better society.

May Allah reward them for all their efforts!

Launching Waqf Australia

Last weekend Awqaf Australia was launched in Sydney. An initiative that promises to revive the Sunnah of “Waqf” (Islamic Endowments), to support and serve the Australian Muslim community.

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Labor Party Recognises Palestine

 

The Mufti has thanked the Labor party on their recent resolution to support the Palestinian state.
However in light of recent atrocities in Palestine, is this a step closer to achieving justice?

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Auditing School Prayer Groups

 

 

The NSW Premier Mike Baird has ordered an audit on NSW school prayer groups, requiring the names of all students attending prayer sessions.

Many Muslims have called it discriminatory and unjustified, what do you think?

 

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