Six Tips for raising Muslim girls

6 Tips for raising Muslim girls

In society, women are being objectified on daily basis. The idea of beauty, in this day and age, has been sexualized. Young girls look at them and they feel marginalised by this idea and feel they have to act, look and talk a certain way to be noticed.

So how are we, as Muslim parents, supposed to equip Muslim girls with the means to fight such dominating influences?

 

  1. Let them know they’re loved

Our children’s appreciation of Allah is limited at a young age. Therefore,

We should encourage them to please Allah out of love, and make sure they know that Allah loves them.

Tell them stories about the Prophet ﷺ and how he loved them and made du’a for them without seeing them.

 

  1. Be a good listener

Speak to your daughter according to her level of understanding, and make sure you’re aware of her “age-specific” needs.  

Encourage your daughter to learn and thrive.

Verbal motivation is essential for girls, they need to know that you believe in them.  

 

  1. Build their love for modesty

Clothes at the shops are not a good representation of modesty.

We should start teaching our daughters to have hayaa’ (modesty) from a young age.

This will gradually make them inclined towards the idea of hijab.  

Make sure that your daughter is celebrated once she wears the hijab. She should know her parents are proud of her. Modesty should be something that Muslim girls love not forced upon.

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6 Tips for raising Muslim girls

 

  1. Role Models

Our daughters should learn the stories of the many amazing women in Islamic history, such as:

  • Maryam the daughter of Imran
  • Khadijah the daughter of Khuwaylid
  • Fatima the daughter of Muhammad
  • Asiyah the wife of Fir’aun and,
  • ‘Aisha the daughter of Abu Bakr

 

  1. Love and Affection

Develop a close bond with your daughter by showing love and affection. Let her know she is valued.

Remember how the Prophet treated Fatima (RA).  If she would enter the room and he is seated, he would get up and kiss her between her eyes, all the time.

 

  1. Understand the blessing of a daughter

The Prophet ﷺ said:

“Whosoever maintains two girls until they attain maturity, he and I will come on the Day of Judgment like this.” (And he joined his two fingers held together)

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The intercession of Prophet Muhammad ﷺ

The Intercession of Prophet Muhammad

In this emotional excerpt, Sheikh Badr Almishary gives a detailed account of the moment the Prophet Muhammad ﷺ intercedes for the Muslims to be taken out of the Fire.

It is an incredible moment that will capture the great status of the Prophet Muhammad ﷺ above the rest of creation.

This event is also noted in the below Hadith narrated by Anas Bin Malik.

The Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said:

“When the Day of Resurrection comes, the people will surge with each other like waves. They will come to Adam and say, ‘Intercede for us with your Lord.’ He will say, ‘I am not fit for that. Go to Ibraaheem for he is the Close Friend of the Most Merciful.’ So they will go to Ibraaheem, but he will say, ‘I am not fit for that. Go to Moosa for he is the one to whom Allaah spoke directly.’ So they will go to Moosa but he will say, ‘I am not fit for that. Go to ‘Eesa for he is a soul created by Allaah and His Word.’ So they will go to ‘Eesa but he will say, ‘I am not fit for that. Go to Muhammad ﷺ”.

So they will come to me and I will say, I am fit for that.’ Then I will ask my Lord for permission and He will give me permission, and He will inspire me with words of praise with which I will praise Him, words that I do not know now. So I will praise Him with those words of praise and I will fall down prostrate before Him.

He will say, ‘O Muhammad, raise your head. Speak and intercession will be granted to you, ask and you will be given, intercede and your intercession will be accepted.’ I will say, ‘O Lord, my ummah, my ummah!’ He will say, ‘Go and bring forth everyone in whose heart there is faith the weight of a barley-grain.’ So I will go and do that.

Then I will come back and praise Him with those words of praise and I will fall down prostrate before Him. He will say, ‘O Muhammad, raise your head. Speak and intercession will be granted to you, ask and you will be given, intercede and your intercession will be accepted.’ I will say, ‘O Lord, my ummah, my ummah!’ He will say, ‘Go and bring forth everyone in whose heart there is faith the weight of a small ant or a mustard-seed.’ So I will go and do that.

Then I will come back and praise Him with those words of praise and I will fall down prostrate before Him. He will say, ‘O Muhammad, raise your head. Speak and intercession will be granted to you, ask and you will be given, intercede and your intercession will be accepted.’ I will say, ‘O Lord, my ummah, my ummah!’ He will say, ‘Go and bring forth from the Fire everyone in whose heart there is faith the weight of the lightest, lightest grain of mustard-seed.’ So I will go and bring them forth.”  

(Al-Bukhaari, 7510)

 

The Virtues of the Tenth Day of Muharram, ‘Ashura

Why you should fast the day of ‘Ashura

Don’t forget to fast the day of ‘Ashura!

(The tenth of Muharram)

Here’s why.

 

It will forgive a whole year of sin.

The Prophet ﷺ said:

“For fasting the day of ‘Ashura, I hope that Allah will accept it as expiation for the year that went before.”

(Muslim, 1976)

Imam Nawwawi was of the opinion that this day expiates all minor sins; meaning major sins still require repentance.

 

It is the day Allah saved Musa.

When the Prophet came to Madinah, he saw the Jews fasting the day of ‘Ashura. When he asked them why they replied: “This is a righteous day…”

“It is the day when Allah saved the Children of Israel from their enemies, so Musa fasted on this day.”

The Prophet replied,

“We have more right to Musa than you.” So he fasted that day and commanded the Muslims to do the same.

(Al-Bukhari, 1865)

 

The Prophet prioritised fasting this day.

Ibn ‘Abbas (may Allah be pleased with them both) said:

“I never saw the Messenger of Allah ﷺ so keen to fast any day and give it priority over any other than this day, the day of ‘Ashura.”

(Al-Bukhari, 1867)

 

He would’ve also fasted the ninth as well.

The Prophet said that ‘If I live to see the next year, God willing, we will fast on the ninth day too.’ But it so happened that the Messenger of Allah ﷺ passed away before the next year came.”

(Muslim, 1916)

Imam Nawwawi states that the reason to fast the ninth along with the tenth is to differentiate our fast from the fasting of the Jews, as indicated by Ibn ‘Abbas.


It occurs in a sacred month.

The month of Muharram, in which ‘Ashura falls, is a sacred month. This means that good deeds will bring about a greater reward while sins will be considered far more serious.

Tafsir Ibn Kathir (Quran 9:36)

 

The Prophet also particularly recommended us to increase our fasts this month when he said,

“The best of fasting after Ramadan is fasting Allah’s month of Muharram.”

(Muslim, 1982)

Is the Quran really a book of peace?

Is the Quran really a book of peace?

So many times we hear ‘Is the Quran really a book of peace?’ in debates, arguments, topics and various discussions. We would like to help you answer this question through this post. So without further ado;

Is the Quran really a book of peace?

That is the question we set out to answer and quite frankly it’s a question on the minds of many around the world. Sceptics, Non-Muslims and Muslims alike.

To anyone who reads the Quran, particularly in Arabic, they will quite often come across the word “سلام” (Salaam) or the many different derivatives of it. This is the specific Arabic word for “peace”, and it occurs over 40 times within the Quran.

But let’s look at this a little deeper than the question of ‘Is the Quran really a book of peace’.

To the surprise of many, the very word for peace or “Al-Salaam” is a name from the many names of Allah, God Almighty, explicitly mentioned in the Quran.[1] Muslims understand this name as referring to God as the ultimate source and provider of peace.

Is the Quran really a book of peace?
Is the Quran really a book of peace?

In other verses, God will also implore Muslims to greet one another with “peace” as their own unique greeting.[2] In fact, He asks us on multiple occasions to use this very same word for peace when confronted by those who are ignorant and unfriendly.[3]

God will also frequently use the word peace to illustrate His Garden of Paradise, which is the ultimate abode of tranquillity and rest in the afterlife.[4] To be specific, the exact phrase “Peace” will repeatedly be said to the inhabitants of Paradise from God Himself[5], the Angels[6] and amongst one another.[7]

God will also use the word “Peace” when invoking praise upon the various Prophets, Messengers and pious people of the past. Whether it be the Prophet Muhammad[8], Jesus[9], Abraham[10], Noah[11], Moses[12], Yahya (John)[13] or the believers in general.[14]

In fact, when God describes His mission for humanity and His ultimate call, He explicitly says that He calls towards “the abode of peace”.[15] In another verse, He states that He guides towards “the path of peace”.[16]

And lastly, God will even use the word peace when describing the various rulings pertaining to war, whereby He explicitly implores the Muslims towards peace, if the opposing side inclines towards it.[17]

Quite clearly, peace is an overwhelming theme that is well repeated throughout the Quran in many different instances. The Prophet Muhammad ﷺ too would also illustrate the sheer importance of peace throughout many occasions. For example in his well-known supplication, “Oh Allah, you are peace and from you is peace”[18] and of course, his well-renowned plea towards the Muslims to “spread peace” amongst one another.[19]

All these examples provide a clear indication that the ultimate goal of the Muslim in this life and the next is to achieve the status of peace. Although it is unfortunately obvious that this life will always have its limitations in achieving absolute peace, particularly due to the abundance of corruption in this world and the constant conflict between the forces of good and evil; however as Muslims, we nevertheless shall always remain in pursuit of peace which can only be achieved through obtaining the pleasure of God and entering into His mercy – The ultimate abode of peace.  So when people ask ‘Is the Quran really a book of peace?’ just tell them to read the Quran and see for themselves.

Salaam.

Peace be upon you all.

 

[1] Quran 59:23.

[2] Quran 6:54

[3] Quran 25:63; Quran 28:55; Quran 43:89.

[4] Quran 6:127

[5] Quran 36:58

[6] Quran 56:26; Quran 16:32

[7] Quran 10:10; Quran 14:23; Quran 33:44

[8] Quran 33:56

[9] Quran 19:33

[10] Quran 37:109

[11] Quran 37:79

[12] Quran 37:120

[13] Quran 19:15

[14] Quran 20:47

[15] Quran 10:25

[16] Quran 5:16

[17] Quran 8:61; Quran 4:90.

[18] Sahih Muslim 592

[19] Sunan Ibn Majah 1334

The reality of Jihad and Omar Mukhtar

The reality of Jihad and Omar Mukhtar

Why everyone must know Omar Mukhtar.

Omar Mukhtar was a nobleman who taught the world the true meaning of Jihad (Struggle).
In his early days, he mastered the personal Jihad of disciplining his soul from vices such as greed, envy, arrogance and hate.

He was able to instead instil his heart with the love of God and thus spiritually connect with his Creator.

This personal Jihad was key in equipping him with the necessary skills required to embark on his physical Jihad later in life.

His military life saw him successfully organise resistance against the colonial power that had invaded his land.

He spent twenty years fighting to liberate his people, yet he never targeted civilians.

He would also treat prisoners of war well which earnt him the respect even of his enemies.

The reality of Jihad and Omar Mukhtar
Omar Mukhtar

When asked why he does not kill prisoners of war like his enemies do, he replied: “they are not our teachers.”

After finally being wounded and captured, he was offered freedom on the condition he sold out the resistance.

He refused, knowing such a decision would cost him his life, he announced: “To God, we belong, and to Him, we return.”

He died a martyr’s death and no doubt taught the world the true meaning of Jihad.

A nobleman who fought to liberate his land and people, and yet never harmed an innocent soul.

Unfortunately, the meaning of Jihad today has been lost between those who associate it with terrorism and those who refuse to acknowledge its applicability to legitimate physical resistance.

Is Mankind Inherently Evil?

Is Mankind Inherently Evil?

Is Mankind inherently evil? This was the type of question Brother Jeffrey Lang was asking when he was an atheist Mathematician professor when he discovered a Quran sitting on his desk. Someone had anonymously gifted it to him. So one night when he was sitting in his apartment with nothing to do, he picked up the Quran and began to read through it. His life has been changed ever since.

Up until this point Brother, Jeffrey had been raised a Catholic. By the age of eighteen, Jeffrey began to ask questions about the condition of mankind and why God had created us in this perpetual state of corruption and bloodshed. He could not help but ask ‘is mankind inherently evil?’ and if so ‘why did God create us this way?’ Brother Jeffrey couldn’t find any answers to his questions and so he abandoned his faith in God and left his previous religion of Catholicism.

Is mankind inherently evil?
Dr Jeffrey Lang: Is mankind inherently evil?

So once he got his hands on the Quran and began to read through the first verses of the Quran he began to notice some strange literary devices and some deviation from the bible’s storytelling. From the moment he read about the creation of Adam, he was puzzled.

Allah said in the Quran:

And [mention, O Muhammad], when your Lord said to the angels, “Indeed, I will make upon the earth a successive authority.” They said, “Will You place upon it one who causes corruption therein and sheds blood, while we declare Your praise and sanctify You?” Allah said, “Indeed, I know that which you do not know.”

Holy Quran [2:30]

Brother Jeffrey was amazed at how ‘this author’ (Allah) would reveal to the reader one of the most important theological questions (‘is mankind inherently evil?’) ever asked by mankind only thirty verses into the Quran. He thought that ‘the author was committing theological suicide’.  

However, brother Jeffrey was even more amazed and perplexed about how Allah answers their question:

“I know that which you do not know.”

Brother Jeffrey discovered in the next few verses that God had given mankind the gift of intellect. He then saw that man is a moral being that chooses between right and wrong by being introduced to the story of Satan disobeying Allah and subsequently Adam disobeying Allah. Brother Jeffrey had discovered something in these verses that was right under his nose. Mankind can choose to do both good and evil through the intellect, and that is why mankind is a being of choice.

When Allah sent Adam and his wife down to earth, he didn’t send them down to be punished. Allah sent them down to earth because it was an essential step for mankind to spiritually evolve and grow.

Brother Jeffrey found himself arguing and conversing with the Quran throughout the completion of the book. He read it over and over again, he would read the Quran finding questions being asked by Allah and answered in the next few verses or chapters.

Over time, the mental wall that Jeffrey had built in his mind, which kept out the idea of God’s existence, just crumbled away. His question of ‘is mankind inherently evil?’ was just not enough to keep from believing in God.

 

 

What do you know about the Islamic (Hijri) Calendar?

What do you know about the Hijri (Islamic) Calendar?

Pre-Islamic Arabia used the lunisolar calendar which was based on the phases of the moon, as well as the seasons.

The hijri calendar was first established by Umar Ibn al-Khattab, in 637/638 AD.

Abu Musa al-Ash’ari wrote to Umar Ibn al-Khattab saying “Letters have reached us from the Commander of the Faithful, but we do not know which to obey. We read a document dated [the month of] Sha’ban, but we do not know which of the Sha’ban is meant: is it the month that has passed, or that which is to come?”

After consulting the Prophet’s Companions, Umar Ibn al-Khattab decided that the year of the Prophet’s imigration should become the beginning of the Islamic calendar. Hijra was the most important event in the Islamic world which brought about the Islamic nation, hence they named the new dating system the Hijri calendar.

Some of the companions wanted the calendar to start with the month of Ramadan, but Umar thought that Muharram is more appropriate to be the first month of the Hijri calendar as it is when the Hajj season is over.

One Hijri year is made up of 354 days, which is the time it takes for the moon to circle the Earth 12 times and each Lunar year advances 11 days from the previous one.

Muslims globally follow the Islamic calendar in their worship, for it marks the months of Ramadan and Hajj (Dhul Hijjah) etc.

Saudi Arabia however, is the only nation that uses the Islamic calendar as the State’s official calendar.

May the Hijrah of the Prophet stay glorified in our minds and May the new year brings us nearer to Allah.

The virtues of Surah Al Fatihah

Seven secrets behind Surah Al Fatihah

We recite Surah Al Fatihah over 17 times a day, but how often do we stop and ponder over the greatness of this Chapter.

Here is a short list of seven amazing virtues of this short yet incredibly powerful chapter of Quran.

 

  1. It is the greatest chapter in the Quran

 

When the Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said to a companion that he would teach him the greatest chapter in the Quran, he recited Surah Al Fatihah.

Narrated Abu Sa`id Al-Mu’alla

While I was praying, the Prophet called me but I did not respond to his call. Later I said,

“Oh Allah’s Apostle! I was praying.” He said, “Didn’t Allah say:

‘O you who believe! Give your response to Allah (by obeying Him) and to His Apostle when he calls you’?”

Quran (8.24)

He then said,

“Shall I not teach you the most superior Surah in the Qur’an?” He said, ‘(It is), ‘Praise be to Allah, the Lord of the worlds. ‘ (i.e., Surat Al-Fatiha) which consists of seven repeatedly recited Verses and the Magnificent Qur’an which was given to me.”

Sahih Al Bukhari

  1. It is a pillar of the prayer

The Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said that

“Whoever does not recite Surah Al Fatihah in his prayer, his prayer is invalid”.”

Sahih Al Bukhari

  1. It is the Mother of the Quran

The Prophet ﷺ said that Al Fatihah is

“the Mother of the Quran, the Mother of the Book, the Seven Oft-Repeated Verses and the Great recitation.”

Tirmidhi

  1. It is a cure for disease

A companion once recited Al-Fatihah over a scorpion bite, to which the Prophet commanded him saying

“How did you know it was a Ruqyah (cure)?”.

Sahih Al Bukhari

  1. It was sent from Heaven as a light

An Angel addressed the Prophet ﷺ saying,

“Rejoice in two lights brought to you which have not been brought to any prophet before you, Al-Fatihah and the last verses of Al- Baqarah”.

Ibn ‘Abbas narrated:
“While Jibril was with the Messenger of Allah, he heard a noise from above. Jibril lifted his sight to the sky and said: “This is a door in the Heavens being opened, and it has never been opened before now.” An Angel descended from that door and came to the Prophet and said: “Receive the glad tidings of two lights that you have been given, which no other Prophet before you was given: the Opening of the Book (Al Fatiha), and the last verses of ‘al-Baqarah.’ You will not read a letter of them except that you will gain its benefit.”

Sahih Muslim

  1. It is the seven oft-repeated verses

Surah Al Fatihah is the seven oft-repeated verses as mentioned in Surah Al Hijr, Verse 87. This is because it is repeated in every unit of prayer.

  1. It is a cure for the heart

This Chapter contains a supplication for protection from misguidance and from the anger of Allah. This thus protects the heart from corrupt knowledge and evil intentions.

The hidden cure to both these illnesses is also found in the verse

“You (Oh Allah) we worship and from You do we seek help”.

Ibn Qayim

Worldwide protests in support of the Rohingya Muslims

Worldwide protests in support of the Rohingya Muslims

People around the world are protesting against the persecution of The Rohingya Muslims

On Monday, September 4, tens of thousands of people marched through the city of Grozny,  Russia. 

In London, several hundred protesters gathered outside the Myanmar embassy in central London on Sunday, September 10.

Also, on September 10, in Karachi, Pakistan, around 7000 protesters, including representatives of the minority Hindu, Christian, and Sikh populations joined the “Support Rohingya March” to support Rohingya Muslims, organized by the country’s main Islamic party.

Last Sunday, September 17, hundreds of protesters gathered in Lakemba Memorial Park protesting against the oppression of Rohingya Muslims.

Dhaka, Bangladesh, followed suit on September 19, where more than 10,000 Rohingya Muslims marched towards the Myanmar embassy to protest the crackdown on the Rohingya.

Over 400,000 Rohingya Muslims have fled to Bangladesh since violence erupted in Rakhine State last month.

But the response from the Myanmar government has been pitiful.

Rohingya Muslims
Rohingya Muslims 

Aung San Suu Kyi said in her latest speech:

“We want to find out what the real problems are..”

Satellite images released by Human Rights Watch showed entire villages burnt to the ground in the Rakhine State.

Leonard Doyle, Spokesperson of the UN have said:

“Many of these people are living in terrible situations, in makeshift shelters, without food. Some are living in the open, some are in a military area, where is no access to them by humanitarian agencies…”

May Allah protect our brothers and sisters in Myanmar and protect those who are struggling all around the world!

Why is Homosexuality Prohibited in Islam?

Why does Islam prohibit homosexuality?

Why is homosexuality prohibited in Islam? A few years ago I had a conversation with a colleague about Islam. He was really interested and agreed with everything I was saying, yet, he just had one major concern. He said,

“Look, almost everything you’ve said so far makes perfect sense. Yet I can’t help but wonder why is your God so bothered about two men that just so happen to love one another?”

Such a question is a norm in today’s modern world. I mean, in a world that prides itself for its struggle to achieve equality and social justice, shouldn’t a man loving a woman be the same as a man loving a man? Shouldn’t all love be considered the same? Why does Islam see a difference? Why is homosexuality prohibited in Islam?

Well, the answer is in fact quite simple and it all comes down to the very definition of Islam in and of itself – and that is submission. Islam by its very essence means to submit to whatever Allah ordains for humanity. No ifs, no buts, no why’s?, no how come, just complete utter submission and servitude to God – and that’s what makes you a Muslim.

Allah says in the Quran:

فَلَا وَرَبِّكَ لَا يُؤْمِنُونَ حَتَّىٰ يُحَكِّمُوكَ فِيمَا شَجَرَ بَيْنَهُمْ ثُمَّ لَا يَجِدُوا فِي أَنفُسِهِمْ حَرَجًا مِّمَّا قَضَيْتَ وَيُسَلِّمُوا تَسْلِيمًا

“But no, by your Lord, they will not truly believe until they make you, [O Muhammad], judge concerning that over which they dispute among themselves and then find within themselves no discomfort from what you have judged and submit in [full, willing] submission.”

Quran 4:65

You see, even if we don’t understand the wisdom or benefits behind such rulings, we submit, simply because that’s what Allah ordained. Now this, of course, doesn’t prevent us from searching for the wisdom behind such rulings, and in this case, there are many, yet what I am saying is that the fundamental underlying principle of why we follow this ruling, is out of submission to Allah’s law.

And by no means is this submission degrading or shameful by any standard. In fact to the contrary, one should feel confident knowing that His affairs and practices are in accordance with the Creator. After all, who is more suitable to regulate the affairs of humanity & society than the One who created it?

أَلَا يَعْلَمُ مَنْ خَلَقَ وَهُوَ اللَّطِيفُ الْخَبِيرُ  

“Does He who created not know, while He is the Subtle, the Aware?”

Quran 67:14

So irrespective of social norms, trends or cultural practices, Islamic principles and prohibitions especially those that are clearly mentioned in the Quran and unanimously agreed upon are final – whether it’s homosexuality, interest, gambling, intoxicants, or adultery. Even if the whole world was to disagree and argue that it was for the betterment of society, that it was for equality, as Muslims our obedience and reliance shall remain in Allah alone.

In another verse, Lut advised his town:

Of all the creatures in the world, will you approach males, and leave those whom Allah has created for you to be your mates? No, you are a people transgressing (all limits)!’

Qur’an 26:165-166

The scholars have also illustrated many worldly consequences of homosexual acts to reinforce its prohibition, including the breakup of the family unit, the spread of disease and going against the natural laws Allah has ordained for His creation.

Nevertheless, even if the whole world was to disagree with this prohibition and argue that such an act was for the betterment of society, that it was for equality, as Muslims our obedience and reliance shall remain in Allah alone.

وَإِن تُطِعْ أَكْثَرَ مَن فِي الْأَرْضِ يُضِلُّوكَ عَن سَبِيلِ اللَّهِ ۚ إِن يَتَّبِعُونَ إِلَّا الظَّنَّ وَإِنْ هُمْ إِلَّا يَخْرُصُونَ

“And if you obey most of those upon the earth, they will mislead you from the way of Allah. They follow not except assumption, and they are not but falsifying.”

Quran 6:116

So in summary, we can argue and debate the benefits and harms of such an action for years on end, but the fact of the matter remains that we oppose such behavior (prohibit homosexuality) for the very fact that our Lord Allah opposed it.

And this is the essence of what it means to be a Muslim.